While talking about good side of a society, It always doesnt matter about the existence of a dark side to it. I am trying to potrait one such dark side of a life that we come across. There are many peoples who explore these kind of dark life. They make good documentary films, novels But they are not the best sellers always and mostly ignored.. why are they being ignored? Nobody wants to potrait the dark side is that the lesson from this.. No.. They are not marketed well. moreover, rule makers always has a fear of potrait this could have a negative impact on a society... Not all societies of different ethnics welcome this change..
As when we get to know about all these. we realise there is a dark side exists.
Without we facing the darker side, we never get to know what the value of the good side and what the good side worth it? When you are travelling in a Inter state you will get to see two roads. An exit and a merge.It is the option you will have to choose. If you get to exit, that is well and good for you. but if you get to merge with another road or a lane.. you got to be with the speed of the lane no matter what happens if you failed to keep up the speed or the pressure whatever u term it, you will be risking yourself.. This is true not only for a parkway.. But for any profession and life..
Sometimes, your experience from these lessons will give bigger value to you. you dont know the value of your mom when you are living in the family.. When you are moving out of your family,you will get to know the value. We are no where near a monologue or confession here.. It is a question you can ask yourself..
How worth are you? You can never evaluate your one's own worthiness
at first by Money.. Buying an insurance policy of a million doesnt mean that your worth is million..
Secondly, Attitude towards one self. Thinking that i am superior to others or others are inferior to me.. It is a kind of thinking that you alone doing good towards any subject unless someone caught you at mistake. These people are marketing guys. They will show case that an apple is really an orange unless some one comes and tell you they are making mess of you.
Thirdly, you might get moved by what the other guys around you experienced in their life. A kind of their bad experience. unless, you are truly listening or you like the guy .. you will never realise it sometimes unless you are in such a situation. One day, a friend told that he drowned in to baltimore sea when he was riding on a jet stream boat.even though he had a jacket..with no swimming experience when you feel that you are going down deep in to the water..and you realise one second...that you had seen god. The moment will be like watching a high pitch action movie and suddenly the volume is in mute and the movie is paused and you turn it off entirely. everything will go blank for a second and then your jacket will save you in the end by making you float.. At the moment, you would have a got a feel for life. When you try explain this difficult situation you faced to a group, for them it might be like this guy swim with a jacket and doing extra build up.. you never realise what it would have been for him..
Finally, you come across people who make you feel miserable,look dumb and low down to earth.Just kind of stage where they shed your failures naked with their verbal assault sometimes directly or in some other group where they try to back bite you. There are really experts available in any part of the society who take benefits of being inboth sides.It is like a spider web.if you get in to it.The harder you try chance are less to come out.
Having said all different consequences.One thing is for sure.
People can forget whatever you say about them but they will never forget how you made them feel. The path will be upto you whether you want them to think feel good happy or make them think bad about you. There will be similar such incidences we might come across daily within a family, your friends. May be it is your wife or husband or close friends or father.The fight may have sometime negative consequences when it is prolonged. For instance, the attitude towards a thing might be different for two people and there can be a clash in choosing one in common. One might end up losing what they like and they might feel that i had lost it.. The case for the other person will be to end winning things and not people. Life is all about winning peoples. Better the people around you, Better you are.. Stronger the people around you, Stronger you are..
Why do we need to talk about people? Only when you are facing a difficult situation of your life with stub-born and you get the fear of losing it like a white wash in a lone situation and not surrounded by a dear one.. May be it is a simple thing when you look that incident after years..Think of two such situations that happened in your life with a person one a time, both positive and negative and continue reading down the passage . you might not know what happened exactly in the situation and what you did exactly at the situation but you know what that person or an incident made you feel. You might not even be able to recollect things after years.. Now, you can think for a negative consequence of an incident, what if i had chosen to travel the other way.. But the lost opportunity is always lost.. Now for a positive consequence you might not even recollect or value it.. Finally, you end up attaching a potrait of a person in your heart with the feel you got irrespective of the outcome.
In a daily life span, we might not even care about those things.. But in a life span of sixty years how much you afford to lose and gain depends on you and only you.. Gathering good and caring people around you, you will be doing good for both of them. But Gathering or i would say
Garnering good people around you is an art.. you might need to show the care and bring in the trust of other person in you and you might need to forgive or adjust to the other person most of the time to accomdate them. Here '
we' matters and not '
I'. Whenever a person get the feel of comfortness with you, no matter whatever fight happens things will be taken lighter and the chemistry will be good and is often reflected in results. There will be always one lesson at a difficult situation, we should make sure that these small fights or misunderstandings do not get prolonged. Fight happens on same day should end on the same day because for tomorrow you will have another one to face. Moreover during such instance care should be taken that there is no reference made to the history and target the person instead of the current subject. This might give a detachment to the beloved ones with you. Its like an interest accumulated on a loan.. Once these detachment get accumulated you will end up in a losing side.
So,
How many good ones are you afford to lose? Choice is yours.The worthiness of you will be decided by the people around you who likes you.
Be a go giver in ife.. you will accomplish more in life.. Shutting a door to some one in your life doesn't mean that you are saying not to them. But you are shutting a door of an opportunity in your life. Be good to others you will be bestowed the same
